“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go” -Rumi
What does the term ‘holding on’ bring to mind? Something to lean on when you stumble? Something that is precious to you?
You are defined by what you hold on to. You hold on to people, beliefs, possessions, opinions, memories… Over time, these form what you identify as ‘norm’. And together, these become your comfort zone – their familiarity lending a sense of safety. You feel defined by what you choose to hold on to.
However, you could also be holding on to anger, guilt, regrets, grudges… You could be holding on to a relationship that has ended. Or a person that has chosen to move on. Or the life you used to live. You might not consciously be of aware when the comfort zone became a stifling stranglehold; something that is draining you of energy in an unhealthy manner.
Learning to let go may be one of the most difficult things you do. The idea of letting go can seem painful, the thought of a future without this person or relationship or possession can seem overwhelming. However, holding on could be hurting you much more than letting go would.
Letting go makes room for healthier, more fulfilling and authentic things. We need less of what depletes our health, and more of what rejuvenates and reenergizes us. We open ourselves to new opportunities and beginnings by ceasing to hold and control toxic, unhealthy things.
Take a moment to reflect on what you are holding on to. Ask yourself if this is in fact, holding you back. What prevents you from letting go?